Friday, October 21, 2011

“I Thought You Meant....?” My Paper on Cross-Cultural Communication

The following essay was written for my communications class that I took in the spring of 2010. I thought it was worth sharing. Hope you gain some insight...or at least it gets you thinking.

“I Thought You Meant....?” My Paper on Cross-Cultural Communication
      In the twenty-first century the world is becoming increasingly smaller. Only forty years ago it would take a North American three months of boat travel to visit the continent of Africa; now it can takes less then twenty-four hours by airplane. A trip to South America, by airplane, can take less then six hours. Even the obstacle of language differences between countries have change. The English language has become the universal language and its speakers can be found in many cities across the globe.

      With the speed of travel and the diminishing of the language barrier, North Americans feel confident communicating oversees. However, first-language English speakers can often find themselves being misunderstood, with sometime great consequence, by their international English listeners. There is more to cross-communication then just a common language. Effective cross-cultural communication comes from understanding the elements of communication, how culture, worldview, and value orientation impact the way one communicates, and demonstrating characteristics of competent communicators.
      Understanding the elements of communication will increase the effectiveness of cross-cultural communication. There are many elements involved with the communication process. The transactional view of communication, as discussed in Looking Out Looking In, describes communication as a transaction process where, at least, two participants exchange messages and there is understanding of meaning. The communication process begins with a sender (also known as an encoder) who puts the message into some kind of coded system. The message is sent through some type of media like verbally speaking or writing or non verbal means. The receiver then decodes interprets or gives meaning to the message. The receiver (decoder) also gives either verbal or non-verbal feedback to the sender. The nature of the communication process demonstrates that meaning is found in the decoder and not in the words or behavior of the sender (Adler, Proctor 15).   It is important for the sender to increase the mutual understanding between he and the receiver. Therefore when North Americans communicate cross-culturally they must seek to communicate in a way that the listener will understand the intended message. Even more, communicators need another level of awareness in order to communicate cross-culturally.
      Effective cross-cultural communicators understand that culture impacts communication. Michael Powell in the book, Express Yourself, states that “every society you encounter will have an unique and intricate repertoire of acceptable and unacceptable behaviors, facial and body gestures (or lack of them), and subtle ways of expressing or concealing thoughts and emotions” (7).  These are called social codes, and they derive from the society’s historical legacy that spans for over thousands of years and that has formed each country’s culture and national character (Powell 7). In other words, the way one communicates is determined by the individuals social code and consequently their culture.
      Culture is defined as a person’s “design for living” and the “acquired knowledge which one uses to interpret experience and generate behavior” (qtd. in Hesselgrave 102). D. Hesselgrave discusses that culture is composed of several layer, all of which determine the way the decoder will determine meaning of a message. The first level, at the core, is the ideology, cosmology, and worldview of the society. The second is value orientation and the third are institutions such as marriage, education, and law. These all lead to the surface, and final level, which is made up of the society’s observable behavior and material artifacts (102). Moreover, according to this explanation of culture, a persons worldview is the main reason for determining how that individual will send and receive messages.
      To further this point, there is an understanding that all of mankind is born into and reared into culture. In the book Communicating Christ Cross-Culturally, D. Hesselgrave says, “[that] by this process [enculturation] culture is made to be uniquely their own-the cultural reality becomes their reality over a period of time” (195). This reality or the way a person perceives the world is called a worldview (Hesselgrave 197). As discussed earlier, the way an individual perceives the world shapes the way he will send or decode messages. “The greater the difference between our [the senders] culture and theirs [the receivers], the greater will be the opportunities for miscommunication.”(Hale 63) Therefore, to effectively communicate one must understand the worldview of his respondent(s). 
      Sonya Hamlin in her book, How to Talk So People Listen, argues that awareness of the decoder’s worldview will increase understanding of the message. She writes, “even if the person you’re speaking to has learned to speak English, we need to recognize that we’re all still not necessarily speaking the same language” (42). Hamlin suggest for senders to consider the following key issues:
       Work: what’s expected; how do you move up the ladder?
       Technology: its challenges and differing experiences
       Money; power, influence; how to get them
       Education; How important it is, who could get it, what it took to get it
       Success; what that means, who can achieve it and how
       Social and class structure
       Religious beliefs and the role those played
       Government; its systems, its regulations, and the law
       Acceptable behavior for groups and individuals
       Independence and human rights
       Individuality and the right to exercise it (45).
Dr. Timothy Clinton and Dr. George Ohlschlager would also agree with Hamlin. From a counselor’s prospective they stated that senders must “be aware of the differences in worldviews and in the underlying value assumptions between” the sender and the decoder (617). The above questions and Clinton and Ohlschlager’s statement leads to the observation on value orientation and its impact on communication.
      Speakers must also recognize the differences in value orientations in order to communicate more effectively cross-culturally. Value orientation is the second layer of a culture. Thomas Hale, in the book On Being a Missionary, overviews general value differences between the West and East. The West orients around time, puts a high value on avoiding crises (crisis-oriented), and discipline and individual achievement are important (task-oriented). Where in the East, or Developing World, focuses on events rather than time (event-oriented), does not plan for future crises, and puts more value into relationships rather than performance (person-oriented) (62).  Being that their are several differences and therefor opportunities for miscommunication, to communicate cross-culturally there must be a general understanding and consideration of the decoders’ value orientations. Even further, there must be an understanding of ones’ own culture.
      In order to properly understand another culture, and communicate more effectively, one must study his own culture. James Henslin in his book, Down to Earth Sociology, says that once a person has learned a dialect (or have been enculturated) he “cannot choose to forget it, nor can he pretend to ignore messages he understood” (117). One cannot separate from his culture, therefore, one must be aware of how it effects his communication. This brings it back to the basic communication process and the idea of communication competence.
      Finally, in order to effectively communicate cross-culturally one must demonstrate the characteristics of a competent communicator. Competence in cross-cultural communication not only will help during but also before the communication process.  Adler and Proctor suggests that there are four characteristics for cross-cultural competence; motivation, tolerance for ambiguity, open-mindedness, and knowledge and skill. Because communicating cross-culturally can most often be difficult the speaker must have motivation to meet those challenges. As discussed earlier the speaker must be willing to study the culture and value orientations of his listeners. Tolerance for ambiguity and open-mindedness to new behaviors also can be doorways to understanding the other culture. “A tolerance for ambiguity make it possible to accept, and even embrace, the often equivocal and sometimes downright incomprehensible messages that characterize intercultural communication” (Adler, Proctor 33). The fourth characteristic of competence reiterates the main points of this paper. There must be a knowledge of the rules and customs of the audience and the sender must have skill in adapting their message accordingly. Practicing the characteristics of a competent cross-cultural communicator will help make the sender be more effective.
      In summary, there are several aspects of communication that need to be understood in order to be effective at cross-cultural communication. First, that understanding the process of communication and that meaning is not found in words but in the interpretation of the words. Secondly, the communicator more realize that culture with its worldview and value orientation impact the way one perceives the world. Therefore, because of this impact, the speaker must study the intended audience’s culture. Finally, the sender must demonstrate characteristics of a competent communicator by being motivated and open-minded. In this way effective cross-cultural communication is more likely to take place.

Work Cited
Adler, Ronald, and Proctor, Russell. Looking Out/Looking In (13th Edition). Boston:
            Wadsworth, 2007.
Clinton, Dr. Timothy and Ohlschlager, Dr. George. Competent Christian Counseling. Colorado
            Springs: Waterbrook Press, 2002.
Hale, Thomas. On Being A Missionary. Pasadena: William Carey Library, 1995.
Hamlin, Sonya. How To Talk So People Listen: Connecting In Today’s Workplace. New York:
            Harper-Collins Publishers, 2006.
Henslin, James M.. Down To Earth Sociology:Introductory Readings (5th Edition). New York:
            The Free Press, 2003.
Hesselgrave, David J.. Communicating Christ Cross-Culturally (2nd Edition). Grand Rapids:
            Zondervan Publishing House, 1991.
Powell, Michael. Express Yourself! The Essential Guide to International Understanding.
            Guilford: The Globe Pequot Press, 2007.
Tarr, Del. Cross-Cultural Communications (2nd Edition). Springfield: Global University, 1996.


Monday, October 17, 2011

Total Reliance on the Grace of God

Just a quick thought...I'll slowly get back into writing someday :-)

Remember that "we are wholly dependent on the sovereign grace of God. There is only one key to successful ministry, and it is in God's hands. In the light of sovereign grace, we work, we pray, and we do not lose heart." -Total Church by T. Chester

Psalm 127
Unless the LORD builds the house, those who build it labor in vain.
Unless the LORD watches over the city, the watchman stays awake in vain.
It is in vain that you rise up early and go late to rest, eating the bread of anxious toil;
For he gives to his beloved sleep.

It can be frustrating at times in ministry, relationships, and personal growth when there is little or no results; but we are at the mercy of God and must trust in his will and sovereignty. It is by grace that anything is accomplished or changed. I'm clinging to this week and praying that God helps me to fully grasp this concept. 

Sunday, May 22, 2011

Neighborhood Barbeque

 After church today the families in church gathered for a barbeque on Blake Street in Lewiston. Now this isn't really the first place someone thinks to have a family oriented BBQ but that's exactly what God wanted us to do. Most of you know I am part of EABC's extended church in downtown Lewiston. We have named ourselves simply the Downtown Church. A few new families that have recently joined our church live in neighboring apartment buildings on Blake street. These families have such a heart to reach their neighbors and asked our church to help them host a BBQ in their park and that's exactly what we did today.
 We had several neighborhood kids and a few parents come out to the BBQ. We had organized games and prizes for the kids and plenty of food. There was a lot of laughter but more importantly relationships were formed and acquaintances turned into friends. I am so excited to share these pictures with you. I think they can serve as a way to give you an idea of the area in which the Downtown church is serving and to put faces to the kids we are ministering to.
I appreciate your prayer for us as we serve as missionaries to this part of the world. Please pray that we would continue to connect with not only the children but with their families as well. My hope and mission is that God would be glorified through is church and that the people of Lewiston we find God to be their ultimate joy.
Playing Capture the Bunny

We had a mini pie eating contest with prizes for everyone

My pastor, Ramsey, his wife Kristen, & their youngest, Zuzu

Getting ready to play capture the bunny


Saturday, May 14, 2011

Water Baptism-Diving Into God's Family

     My small group recently asked me to teach them about water baptism and why Christians are baptized.  I thought I would share my thoughts with you and hopefully bring a deeper understanding to this church practice. I don’t claim this article to be an extensive or complete look at water baptism. This is simply the teaching I deemed appropriate for my small group that has developed over the past two years of my own personal study of the subject.  I regret that this is only a listing of points but I suppose it makes for an easier read. I would like to discuss this with you further if you like.  I believe water baptism is an important part of a person’s conversion to Christianity and I hope that you will take the time to search the scriptures yourself and come to a conclusion on the subject. 


POINT #1: Water baptism is practiced in historical and modern day Judaism
-       Baptism was a sacramental ceremony to symbolize purification and the removal of sins.
o   Read Leviticus 16:23+24 The priests were required to bath themselves before entering the Holies of Holies
o   Read Mark 1:4+5 John is calling people to repent and be baptized before the coming of the Kingdom
o   God used a great flood to cleans the Earth
-       Baptism was sometimes used as an initiation rite to consecrate a change and/or conversion
o   Noah and his family went through a type of baptism when they passed through the flood and God assigned them to re-multiply the Earth
o   Converts to Judaism today are baptized by immersion

What is your experience with Baptism?

POINT #2: Water Baptism does not bring salvation
-       Read Matthew 23:25 Jesus told that Pharisees that water will clean the outside but it does not clean the heart (it is our hearts that needs saving) 
-       Read Hebrews 5:9 Jesus is the source of eternal salvation
-       Read Romans 10:9-13 Paul tells us that if you believe in your heart that God raised Jesus from the dead and confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord then you will be saved
o   The resurrection was a sign that God the Father excepted Jesus as a sufficient sacrifice/punishment for all of human kind’s sins
o   Proclaiming Jesus is Lord is saying that you submit to him and make Jesus ruler in your life
Do you believe that God raised Jesus from the dead?
Will you submit to Jesus and let him rule in your life?
If, “yes,” then continue.

POINT #3: All Christians should desire to be baptized
-       Read Matthew 28:18-20 Jesus commands us to be baptized and to baptize others
o   “In the name of the Father, Son & Holy Spirit” is a way of identifying that God is the one baptizing and not a human. God is the only one who can forgive sins and deem someone righteous. This also denotes that God is the one you are to follow since you were baptized in his name (see 1 Corinthians 1:12-15)
o   See Acts 8:26-39 This is a story of a Ethiopian asking to be baptized after his conversion through Philips teaching
-       Read Matthew 3:13-15 Jesus was baptized at the age of 30(ish) then began his ministry
o   Refer back to point #1: God the Father consecrated Jesus as his “beloved Son”. Immediately following Jesus’ baptism (see Mark 1:12) he was tempted and then began is ministry of proclaiming the gospel; this denotes a change from private ministry to public ministry. Perhaps we can anticipate temptation and a movement into (or greater power in) ministry following our baptism.
o   Refer back to point #2: Jesus did not need to be cleansed/repent of sin
-       Read Romans 6:3- 7 Baptism is a symbol of identifying with Christ in his death, burial, and resurrection. Our “old self” is crucified with Jesus so we are no longer enslaved to sin. If united with his death, then we are also united in his resurrection and sin will have no dominion over us for we are under the grace of God. We are now slaves of God who are sanctified (and being sanctified) and we will receive eternal life (see Romans 6:20-23)

POINT #4: Baptism bonds you to a community; the church of God
-       Read Romans 5:9-11 Not only are we saved from the wrath of God but we are also brought into right relationship with (we are reconciled to) God to where we are no longer called enemies of God but children of God; we are adopted into his family (see Romans 8:14+15)
o   Through Christ’s work on the cross and his resurrection, believers (of all ethnicities, background, and nationality) are unified into one family, also known as the body of Christ
o   Read 1 Corinthians 12:13 We were all baptized into one body and thus should be unified, recognize our function, exercise that function without desiring another, and value functions that are different from your own
-       Read 2 Corinthians 5:17-21 When sin entered the world, relationship between mankind and God was broken and relationship between Adam and Eve (and subsequently all of mankind) was broken (see Genesis 3:16 & 4:8). Since we have now been reconciled to God we now have the power (and motivation/duty) to be reconciled with others. God has extended a huge amount of grace towards us therefore we are expected to show grace towards others.
o   Read Matthew 6:9-14 Jesus warns us to forgive others just as we have been forgiven by God
o   Read Romans 12:10-13:7 and Colossians 3:12-15 Paul instructs us to be unified, strive to live in harmony, and to serve other Christian. He also instructs us to care for anyone who has a need and to be a respectful earthly citizen
o   Read Mark 12:29-31 Jesus says that it is most important that we love God and love our neighbor (which he tells us is everyone)

Final Thought/Summary: Baptism is a symbolic ceremony, which all believers are commanded to partake in after conversion. Baptism symbolizes the believer’s unity with Christ in his death, burial, and resurrection and their new life in him through grace. It is a public declaration of faith in the Gospel of Christ and the induction into the family of God.

If I was baptized as an infant, should I be baptized again? Refer to point #2: as an infant you were not a believer therefore at some point you had to convert, then we can refer to point #1, 3, and 4 where it states that baptism is a proclamation of conversion and union with the family of God.  Baby baptism is really more like a ceremony to dedicate the baby to be brought up in the ways of God but it doesn’t secure or bring salvation. Jesus was also dedicated to God when he was a baby (see Luke 2:21-24) and Jesus also received water baptism as an adult, therefore setting an example to us.

Saturday, April 16, 2011

Pornography Addiction in America | Josh Cousineau

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Pornography Addiction in America | Josh Cousineau

Fight the Good Fight

I am totally embarrassing myself for the sake that you will hear the gospel in a new way. Enjoy :-)

Part 1 - Introduction (Hope to see you tonight)


Friday, April 15, 2011

Don't Be Fooled! (AGAIN)

Do you know what God really says about purity and sexual immorality?  I am not talking about what your parents or Sunday school teacher told you?  Or what you heard from a friend?  Have you actually read with your own eyes what God has written in the Bible about purity?

     I have been a Christian all my life and I thought I knew what God wanted but it wasn’t until I read the Bible for myself that I discovered many of the assumptions where misconstrued and wrong. Before you rejected or accept teachings about purity, research it for yourself! Read the Bible…not just one verse. Read the Bible verses below but I encourage you to read several verses before and after to get an idea of the context in which the verse is taken from. The more you read the Bible the more you will get to know the Author and understand what he is communicating through his book. This is similar to literature class, each book of the Bible was written to a specific audience for a specific reason and when you know this you can better interpret an individual verse.
    Also, don’t research alone; ask your parents, a aunt, your youth pastor or a spiritual leader to help you during this process. Show them the verses you have and ask them to help you apply the teachings to your own life. Older adults have a lot of life experience, take the time to listen to them but also challenge them to open a Bible and show you where their advice comes from. Using the Bible for a guide is sure to bring purity into your life. Pray and ask God to give you discernment and a obedient heart. 

God Says.... Part 5 of 5


FORGIVENESS
·      Psalm 103:8-14
Þ   The Lord is merciful and gracious, slow to anger and abounding in steadfast love
Þ   As far as the east is from the west, so far does he remove our transgressions from us
Þ   As a father show compassion to his children, so the Lord shows compassion to those who fear him
Þ   For he knows our frame; he remembers that we are dust
·      2 Corinthians 5:17-6:12
Þ   Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.
Þ   In Christ God was reconciling the world to himself, not counting their trespasses against them
Þ   For our sake he (Father God) made him to be sin who knew no sin (Jesus), so that in him we might become the righteousness of God.
Þ   Behold now is the favorable time; behold, now is the day of salvation
Þ   You are not restricted by us, but you are restricted in your own affections.
·      Isaiah 52:11-53:12
Þ   Depart, depart, go out from there; touch no unclean thing; go out form the midst of her; purify yourselves, you who bear the vessels of the Lord.
Þ   Surely he (Jesus) borne our griefs and carried our sorrows….he was wounded for our transgressions; he was crushed for our iniquities (sins).
Þ   He bore the sin of many, and makes intercession for the transgressors.
·      Hebrews 9:1-28
Þ   But when Christ appeared as a high priest…he entered once for all into the holy places, not by means of the blood of goats and calves but by means of his own blood, thus securing an eternal redemption.
Þ   Indeed, under the law almost everything is purified with blood, and without the shedding of blood there is no forgiveness of sins
Þ   As it is, he (Jesus) has appeared once for all at the end of the ages to put away sin by the sacrifice of himself.
Þ   So Christ, having been offered once to bear the sins of many, will appear a second time, not to deal with sin but to save those who are eagerly waiting for him
·      Hebrews 10:19-25
Þ   Let us draw near with a true heart in full assurance of faith, with our hearts sprinkled clean from an evil conscience and our bodies washed with pure water.
·      1 John 4:7-21
Þ   Whoever confesses that Jesus is the Son of God, God abides I him, and he is God.
Þ   So we have come to know and to believe the love that God has for us.
Þ   God is love, and whoever abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him
Þ   We may have confidence for the day of judgment
·      Psalm 32:1-11
Þ   Blessed is the one whose transgression is forgiven, whose sin is covered.
Þ   I acknowledged my sin to you and I did not cover my iniquity; I said, “I will confess my transgressions to the Lord,” and you forgave the iniquity of my sin
Þ   Be glad in the Lord, and rejoice, O righteous, and shout for you, all you upright in heart!
·      Romans 5:1-11
Þ   But God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us
·      Ephesians 2:1-10
Þ   But God, being rich in mercy, because of the great love with which he loved us, even when we were dead in our trespasses, made us alive together with Christ
Þ   By grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast
·      Romans 8:1-11
Þ   There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus
Þ   You are not in the flesh but in the Spirit, if in fact the Spirit of God dwells in you

Thursday, April 14, 2011

God Says.... Part 4 of 5

FIGHTING TEMPTATION
·      1 Timothy 6:11-16
Þ   But as for you, O man of God, flee these things. Pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, steadfastness, and gentleness
Þ   Fight the good fight of the faith
Þ   Keep the commandment unstained and free from reproach until the appearing of our Lord Jesus Christ
·      2 Timothy 3:1-9
Þ   For people will be lovers of self…without self-control…lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God
Þ   Avoid such people
Þ   For among them are those who creep into households and capture weak women, burdened with sins and led astray by various passions
·      Hebrews 12:1-17
Þ   Lay aside every weight, and sin which clings so closely, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, looking to Jesus
Þ   Consider him who endured…so that you may not grow weary or fainthearted
Þ   It is for discipline that you have to endure. God is treating you as sons. For what son is there whom his father does not discipline?
Þ   For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.
·      James 1:2-18
Þ   Blessed is the man who remains steadfast under trial, for when he has stood the test he will receive the crown of life, which God has promised to those who love him.
Þ   Let no one say when he is tempted, “I am being tempted by God”
·      Each person is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own desire. Then desire when it has conceived gives birth to sin, and sin when it is fully grown brings forth death.
·      James 4:6-10
Þ   Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.
Þ   Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you
·      1 Peter 2:9-12
Þ   Beloved, I urge you as sojourners and exiles to abstain from the passions of the flesh, which wage war against your soul.
·      Philippians 4:4-9
Þ   Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things
Þ   Practice these things and the God of peace will be with you
·      Galatians 5:16-25
Þ   But I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh.
·      Matthew 5:27-30
Þ   You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
Þ   And if your eye causes you to sin, tear it out and throw it away. It is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body go into hell.
·      2 Thessalonians 2:13-17
Þ   So then, brothers, stand firm and hold to the traditions that you were taught by us, either by spoken word or by our letter
Þ   Now may our Lord Jesus Christ himself, and God our Father, who loved us and gave us eternal comfort and good hope through grace, comfort your hearts and establish them in every good work and word

Wednesday, April 13, 2011

God Says.... Part 3 of 5


PURITY
·      Titus 2:1-8
Þ   Older women…train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled
·      1 Corinthians 7:25-40
Þ   And the unmarried or betrothed woman is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to be holy in body and spirit. But the married woman is anxious about worldly things, how to please her husband.
Þ   I say this for your own benefit, not to lay any restraint upon you, but to promote good order and to secure your undivided devotion to the Lord
·      Romans 12:1-2
Þ   Present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship.
Þ   Do not be conformed to this world
·      Hebrews 12:12-17
Þ   See to it that no one fails to obtain the grace of God; that no “root of bitterness” springs up and causes trouble and by it man become defiled
Þ   (See to it) that no one is sexually immoral or unholy like Esau, who sold his birthright for a single meal.
·      1 Peter 1:13-25
Þ   As obedient children, do not be conformed to the passions of your former ignorance, but as he who called you is holy, you also be holy in all your conduct.
Þ   Having purified your souls by your obedience to the truth for a sincere brotherly love, love one another earnestly from a pure heart, since you have been born again.
·      1 Peter 2:9-12
Þ   Beloved, I urge you as sojourners and exiles to abstain from the passions of the flesh, which wage war against your soul.
Þ   Keep your conduct among the Gentiles (non-Christians) honorable…that they may see your good deeds and glorify God on the day of visitation.
·      1 Peter 3:1-7
Þ   Wives be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct
Þ   Do not let your adorning be external….but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.
·      Philippians 4:4-9
Þ   Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things
Þ   Practice these things and the God of peace will be with you
·      Matthew 5:27-30
Þ   You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
Þ   And if your eye causes you to sin, tear it out and throw it away. It is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body go into hell.  
·      Psalm 19:14
Þ   Let the words of my heart and the mediation of my heart be acceptable in your sight, O LORD, my strength and my Redeemer.
·      Matthew 5:8
Þ   Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God.
·      1 Samuel 16:7
Þ   The Lord sees not as man sees; man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart

Tuesday, April 12, 2011

God Says.... Part 2 of 5

MARRIAGE UNION AND SEX IN MARRRIAGE
·      Hebrews 13:1-8
Þ   Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.
·      Ephesians 5:22-33
Þ   Wives, submit to (respect) your own husbands, as to the Lord.
Þ   Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her…in the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies.
Þ   Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church.
·      Genesis 1:1-31
Þ   So God created man in his own image…male and female he created them
Þ   And God blessed them (Adam and Eve)
Þ   And God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth…”
Þ   And God saw everything that he had made, and behold, it was very good.
·      Proverbs 5:15-21
Þ   Rejoice in the wife of your youth
Þ   Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight; be intoxicated always in her love
·      1 Peter 3:1-7
Þ   Wives be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word (in other words: he is not a Christian), they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct
·      1 Corinthians 7:1-17
Þ   Because of sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband.
Þ   Do not deprive one another (of sex)…so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control
Þ   It is better to marry than to burn with passion
·      Genesis 2:18-25
Þ   Then the Lord God said, ‘It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” And the rib the Lord God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man.
Þ   Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed